Shut Up and Get Over It

I support Hillary Clinton as much today as when I voted for her.  In light of the latest round of Hillary attacks, I want to explain why I believe in her as much as I do.

I identify with Hillary.

Hillary is flawed but Hillary is a fighter. The fighter in me recognizes and respects the fighter in her. 

see in Hillary the resilience that keeps women alive around the world. In fact, I believe Hillary is offensive and threatening because she is the display and embodiment of the strength that quietly resides in every woman.

Hillary Clinton’s candidacy was evidence of the intelligence and independence that many men fear exists in the women around them.


Hillary exhibits on a public stage the same sheer will that enables women every day to survive sexual assault, sexual harassment, sex-based discrimination, domestic violence, social trivialization and professional marginalization. The facts may vary, but in many ways, the story is the same.

Hillary remains standing despite attacks on her character, her gender, her appearance, her motives, and her marriage.


Hillary remains steady despite the attacks on her performance not only as a politician, but as a wife and mother as well.

Although my background and life path differs from Hillary Clinton’s, I nonetheless identify with her when she is assailed by people who want her to suffer and be shamed for having the audacity to not only survive, but to fight for that survival.

Hillary Clinton is not perfect, but neither is anyone else.


Hillary’s detractors are now attacking her book and the related tour, saying that she should just shut up and get over having the presidency stolen from her.


That’s good advice actually for her detractors. 


This is Hillary’s life and it is her story to tell.


Shut up and get over it.

Buckle Up Buttercup.

Fifty million Americans voted for a belligerent, draft-dodging, sexual assaulting, race-baiting, tax-evading, fear monger.

The depth of my sorrow has no words.

How can anyone say their vote for Trump was not an affirmation of his hateful antics and politics of fear? Or that his election did not legitimize the racist, sexist, xenophobic and violent tendencies that represent the basest of human emotions and seem to proliferate among his staunchest supporters?

Asra Nomani says that left has to come to center and the right has to come to the center… And yet Trump is elected on a platform of hate and exclusion and extremism. Yeah. Way to encourage centrism.

(Psst. Right extremism inspires/invokes left extremism.)

You haven’t seen extremism from me.

Buckle up buttercup because shit’s about to get real.

Origins

I saw a clip from Frontline that seemed to suggest that the impetus for Trump’s run was being humiliated by Obama at the Press Corps Dinner several years ago. Basically, Trump was fuming and probably thinking, “You’re all laughing now, but I’m going to have the last laugh.”

When he was elected, and I was so enraged and stayed up all night working on the Pantsuits’ regional chapter group, I thought to myself, “laugh now, idiot, but WE ARE GOING to have the last laugh.” I have not felt this angry and inspired in years. And I see that I am not alone in that. Just as he was compelled to act from that night, so too are we compelled to act from election night.

We lost this battle but we will win this war. And ten or twenty years from now they will document the beginning of our social change movement and they will trace it back to the presidential election of 2016.

Why Hillary Lost

Hillary lost because she assumed that she would have Democratic support in traditionally Democratic states because she was the Democratic nominee. But Hillary was more than the Democratic nominee, she was a female nominee. And the impact of her gender was vastly under-estimated.

I am heart-broken but my eyes have been opened. The fear of female power is alive and well in America.

A few weeks ago, in a Medium post, I wrote:

I see in Hillary the resilience that keeps women alive around the world. In fact, I believe Hillary is offensive and threatening because she is the display and embodiment of the strength that quietly resides in every woman.

Hillary Clinton’s candidacy is evidence of the intelligence and independence that many fear exists in the women around them. Hillary exhibits on a public stage the same sheer will that enables women every day to survive sexual assault, sexual harassment, sex-based discrimination, domestic violence, social trivialization and professional marginalization. The facts may vary, but in many ways, the story is the same.”

I did not realize how right I was when I wrote those two paragraphs.

Even in victory, CNN (oh Anderson Cooper, I kind of hate you right now, you silver-haired fox you) and its pundits, led of course by Corey Lewandoski, chose to continue to attack Hillary Clinton. In this case for not exhibiting the graciousness that we have never, ever seen from Trump or anyone in his camp. Mr. Lewandoski demanded Hillary give a concession speech to unify the country while Trump supporters chanted “lock her up” at Trump’s Headquarters.

Sometimes I’m sick of taking the high road. And I particularly sick of people who couldn’t find the high road with GPS and a map criticizing others for not taking it.

What have I learned? That we need more female candidates in all levels of public office. We need more female CEOs. We need more female leaders. Perhaps we were putting the cart before the horse with the presidency. We have a lot of barriers to break, and stereotypes to overcome, in all aspects of American life.

We have come so far, but clearly, not far enough.

I look to Hillary Clinton’s lifelong political and personal stamina for inspiration. We can’t give up now.